Print Resources For Parents

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Resources are sorted alphabetically by author's last name.

Relational Aggression & Bullying Resources

Blanco, Jodee. Please Stop Laughing At Me: One Woman's Inspirational Story. Avon, MA: Adams Media Corporation, 2003. A publicist who has promoted several best sellers, Blanco was once a troubled child, tormented by her school mates.

Bloch, Douglas and Jon Merritt. Positive Self-Talk for Children. New York: Bantam Books, 1993. A guide for parents, teachers and counselors.

Coloroso, Barbara. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School, How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence. New York: HarperCollins, 2004. A book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying, an aspect of school that the author feels "is a life-and-death issue that we ignore at our children's peril."

Dellasega, Cheryl and Charisse Nixon. Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying. New York: Fireside, Simon & Schuster, Inc., 2003. Two experts offer practical and effective solutions that can stop girls from hurting each other with words and actions.

Dorn, Michael. Weakfish: Bullying Through the Eyes of a Child. Toronto: Safe Havens International, 2003. Dorn analyzes a complex and pervasive societal problem through compelling storytelling and powerful insights.

Freedman, Judy S. Easing the Teasing: Helping Your Child Cope With Name-Calling, Ridicule, and Verbal Bullying. New York: Contemporary Books, McGraw-Hill, 2002. A reference for parents and educators who want to help teasing victims acquire the coping skills necessary to manage these painful incidents.

Fried, Suellen and Paula Fried. Bullies and Victims: Helping Your Child Through the Schoolyard Battlefield. New York: M. Evans and Co., 1996. Suellen Fried, a dance therapist and community activist, and her daughter Paula, a psychotherapist, collaborate on an analysis of peer abuse among children.

Garbarino, James and Ellen deLara. And Words Can Hurt Forever: How To Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence. New York: Free Press, 2002. Cornell University professor Garbarino and therapist deLara interview students, educators, and administrators to probe the issue of bullying in American schools.

Gianetti, Charlene and Margaret Sagarese. Cliques: 8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle. New York: Broadway Books, 2001. Examines the powerful role cliques can have on children and offers parents effective aids for helping their kids.

Greenbaum, Stuart, Brenda Turner and Ronald D. Stephens. Set Straight On Bullies. Malibu, CA: National School Safety Center, Pepperdine University, 1989. Research and statistics about the bullying issue, and what you can do about it.

Hamburg, David A. and Beatrix A. Hamburg. Learning To Live Together: Preventing Hatred and Violence in Child and Adolescent Development. New York: Oxford University Press, 2004. The authors focus on the developmental processes by which we can work to diminish ethnocentrism, prejudice and hatred.

McCoy, Elin. What to Do When Kids Are Mean to Your Child. Pleasantville, NY: The Reader's Digest Association, 1997. A practical book for parents of children ages 5 to 13.

Peretti, Frank. The Wounded Spirit. Nashville: Word Publishing, 2000. Peretti has penned his personal journey through pain, disfigurement, and abuse, offering hope for those struggling with emotional wounds.

Simmons, Rachel. Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls. San Diego: Harcourt Books, 2002. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict, girls develop what Simmons calls "a hidden culture of silent and indirect aggression."

Simmons, Rachel. Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write About Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy. San Diego: Harcourt Books, 2004. This sequel to the controversial best seller Odd Girl Out compiles pseudonymous accounts of bullying, backstabbing, and other nastiness that girls say they have suffered or perpetrated on other girls.

Spaide, Deborah. Teaching Your Kids To Care. A guidebook with service project ideas from the founder of Kids Care Clubs.

Thomas, Michael and Catherine O'Neill Grace with Lawrence J. Cohen. Best Friends, Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children. New York: Ballantine, 2001. Child therapists explain why much of children's real maturation takes place when they move into the social world of their peers.

Underwood, Marion K. Social Aggression Among Girls. New York: Guilford Press, 2003. A critique on much of the current work on social and relational aggression.

Voors, William. The Parent's Book About Bullying: Changing the Course of Your Child's Life. Center City, MN: Hazelden: 2000. This book provides valuable insight and examines dealing with bullying as a painful family problem.

Wiseman, Rosalind. Queen Bees & Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2002. Wiseman offers parents a guide to navigating the adolescent landscape.

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General Parenting Resources

Clarke, Jean Illsley, et al. How Much Is Enough? Everything You Need to Know to Steer Clear of Overindulgence and Raise Likeable, Responsible, and Respectful Children. New York: Marlowe & Company, 2004. The authors assert that "unchecked, overindulgence can create kids who lack even the most basic skills and emotions."

Cline, Foster and Jim Fay. Parenting With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility. Colorado Springs, CO: Pinon Press, 1990. In the context of a healthy, loving relationship, "Love and Logic" parents teach their children responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems, providing skills for coping in the real world.

Covey, Stephen H. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families. New York: Golden Books, 1997. From bestselling author; parenting manual based on his Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

Crawford, Susan Hoy. Beyond Dolls and Guns: 101 Ways To Help Children Avoid Gender Bias. Portsmouth, NH: Heinemann, 1995. Crawford has culled 101 tips from an extensive bibliography of gender-related research.

Debruyn, Robert L. You Can Handle Them All: For Parents. Manhattan, KS: Master Teacher Inc., 2003. Encourages parents and teachers to work together to solve behavior issues that could be affecting a child's performance in school and his/her relationships at home.

Dellasega, Cheryl. Surviving Ophelia: Mothers Share Their Wisdom in Navigating the Tumultuous Teenage Years. Cambridge, MA: Perseus Books, 2001. A description of Dellasega's own experiences as a mother and a compilation of the stories and poems of hundreds of mothers across the country.

Doherty, William J. The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties. New York: HarperCollins, 1997. Offers tips to help families connect.

Doherty, William and Barbara Z. Carlson. Putting Family First: Successful Strategies for Reclaiming Family Life in a Hurry-Up World. New York: Henry Holt, 2002. Practical advice for parents, including single parents and stepfamilies.

Dreyfus, Eve M. Graceful Parenting: Simple Advice for Raising a Gentle and Loving Child. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 2002. A simple guide to raising gentle and loving children.

Elias, Maurice J., et al. Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Guiding the Way for Compassionate, Committed, Courageous Adults. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2000. A guide for parents who wish to raise self-aware and responsible teenagers.

Elium, Jeanne and Don Elium. Raising a Family: Living on Planet Parenthood. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1997. Focuses on improving and maintaining the emotional health of the family by introducing the concept of "FamilyMind." FamilyMind is accessed by asking the question, "What does this family need right now, including me?"

Elium, Jeanne and Don Elium. Raising a Teenager: Parents and the Nurturing of a Responsible Teen. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1999. A guide encouraging a broad and gentle approach to parenting teens.

Faber, Adele and Elaine Mazlish. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. New York: Avon Books, 1980. A communication tool kit providing a step-by-step approach to improving relationships with your children.

Frees III, David M. The Language of Parenting: Building Great Family Relationships At All Ages. Malvern, PA: Red Wire Press, 2003. Solutions for the complex issues that can develop in a parent/child relationship.

Hewlett, Sylvia Ann and Cornell West. The War Against Parents: What We Can Do For America's Beleaguered Moms and Dads. New York: Houghton Mifflin, 1998. The authors discuss their struggles to be a good mother and a good father in our "parent-hurting" society.

Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy. Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles: Winning For a Lifetime. New York: HarperCollins, 2000. Offers creative techniques for using power struggles as pathways to better understanding.

Langston, Teresa A. Parenting Without Pressure: Whole Family Approach, A Parent's Guide. Colorado Springs, CO: Pinon Press, 2001. Emphasizing communication, unconditional love, and a structured environment, the 'Parenting Without Pressure' approach involves the whole family in the parenting process.

McGraw, Jay. Closing the Gap: A Strategy for Bringing Parents & Teens Together. New York: Fireside, 2001. Twenty-two-year-old Jay McGraw, son of best selling author, Phillip C. McGraw, a.k.a. Dr. Phil, wants parents and teens to begin to bridge the familial gap.

McGraw, Phil. Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family. New York: Free Press, 2005. Dr. Phil speaks kindly but firmly to parents who make excuses when they can't find the courage they need to provide good moral structure for their children.

Pearce, Joseph Chilton. From Magical Child to Magical Teen: A Guide to Adolescent Development. Rochester, VT: Park Street Press, 2003. Pearce asserts that the acceptance of the adolescent discovery of spirit is the normal start of a developmental path.

Pipher, Mary. The Shelter of Each Other: Rebuilding Our Families. New York: Ballantine Books, 1996. Pipher recommends an empathetic approach to families' efforts to survive in a difficult era, one that parallels the homesteading years of her grandparents earlier in this century.

Popkin, Michael and Robyn Freedman Spizman. Getting Through to Your Kids. New York: Berkley Publishing Group, 2002. Drawn from the advice and experiences of dozens of psychological, medical, and educational experts, as well as countless parents, this book offers answers to the questions kids are bound to ask.

Pruitt, David. Your Adolescent: Emotional, Behavioral, and Cognitive Development from Early Adolescence Through the Teen Years. New York: HarperCollins, 1999. A guide designed to help parents of adolescents understand and cope with some of childhood's most challenging years.

Riera, Michael. Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They're Really Saying. Cambridge, MA: Perseus Publishing, 2003. Guidance on how to relate to adolescents.

Shimberg, Elaine Fantle. Blending Families: A Guide for Parents, Stepparents, and Everyone Building a Successful New Family. New York: Berkley Publishing Group, 1999. Written by an award-winning author who specializes in health and family care, this book covers a wide range of issues - emotional, financial, disciplinary, and interpersonal.

Siegel, Daniel J. and Mary Hartzel. Parenting From the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. New York: Penguin, 2003. Offers parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them to raise compassionate and resilient children.

Stepp, Laura Sessions. Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence. New York: Berkley Publishing Group, 2000. Offers a look into the lives of children aged 10-15, with advice on how to ensure that they "blossom and thrive during the years of pre-adulthood."

Vernon, Ann and Radhi H. Al-Mabuk. What Growing Up Is All About: A Parent's Guide to Child and Adolescent Development. Champaign, IL: Research Press, 1995. This book provides a brief but comprehensive overview of social, emotional, and physical development at ages ranging from preschool to adolescence.

Walsh. David. Why Do They Act that Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen. New York: Free Press, 2004. A national best seller that explains what happens to the human brain on the path from childhood into adolescence and adulthood.

Whitham, Cynthia. Win the Whining War & Other Skirmishes. Los Angeles: Perspective Publishing, 1991. Techniques from the UCLA Parent Training Program.

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Resources About Girls

Barker, Molly. Girls On Track: A Parent's Guide to Inspiring Our Daughters To Achieve A Lifetime of Self-Esteem and Respect. New York: Ballantine Books, 2004. A resource on how to foster independence, self-esteem and resiliency in girls.

Bingham, Mindy, et al. Things Will be Different for my Daughter: A Practical Guide to Building her Self-Esteem and Self-Reliance. New York: Penguin, 1995. An interactive book that shows there are many ways to bolster girls' self-esteem.

Brumber, Joan Jacobs. The Body Project: An Intimate History of American Girls. New York: Random House, 1997. "'The body is at the heart of the crisis that [Carol] Gilligan, [Mary] Pipher, and others describe.... The fact that American girls now make the body their central project is not an accident or a curiosity," writes Brumberg, "it is a symptom of historical changes that are only now beginning to be understood.'"

Deak, JoAnn and Teresa Barker. Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters. New York: Hyperion, 2002. A practical and reassuring guide for parents of daughters.

Dodsen, Shireen. The Mother-Daughter Book Club: How Ten Busy Mothers and Daughters Came Together To Talk, Laugh and Learn Through Their Love of Reading. New York: HarperCollins, 1997. Step-by-step guidelines, reading lists and practical instructions for starting your own book club.

Eagle, Carol and Carol Colman. All That She Can Be: Helping Your Daughter Maintain Her Self-Esteem During the Critical Years of Adolescence. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1993. A description of the emotional journey adolescents go through on the path to womanhood.

Echevarria, Pegine. For All Our Daughters: How Mentoring Helps Young Women and Girls Master the Art of Growing Up. Worcester, MA: Chandler House Press, 1998. A book emphasizing that for adolescent girls, relationships with adult women other than their mothers can make a significant difference in the transition to womanhood.

Elium, Jeanne and Don Elium. Raising A Daughter: Parents and the Awakening of a Healthy Woman. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1994. Jeanne and Don Elium address challenges and guide parents through each stage of a girl’s development.

Gadeberg, Jeanette. Raising Strong Daughters. Minneapolis, MN: Fairview Press, 1996. A guide for parents who want to raise daughters who will be strong, safe, self-confident and well prepared for successful adult lives.

Glennon, Will. 200 Ways To Raise A Girl's Self Esteem: An Indispensable Guide for Parents, Teachers, and Other Concerned Caregivers. Berkeley, CA: Conari Press, 1999. According to parenting expert Will Glennon, reinforcing a young girl's self-esteem through carefully considered "boosters" is the key to helping girls hold their own in the world.

Gruver, Nancy. How to Say It to Girls: Communicating With Your Growing Daughter. New York: Prentice Hall Press, 2004. From the founder of New Moon magazine, Gruver offers practical advice for parents on how to broach uncomfortable subjects with girls of all ages, or how to simply open the lines of communication.

Hartley-Brewer, Elizabeth. Raising Confident Girls: 100 Tips for Parents and Teachers. Cambridge, MA: Fisher Books, 2001. Tips for parents and teachers to help girls get through confidence crises.

Hesse-Biber, Sharlene. Am I Thin Enough Yet? The Cult of Thinness and the Commercialization of Identity. New York: Oxford University Press, 1995. "'A cult of thinness envelops us,' says Hesse-Biber, 'and is evidenced by a growing number of eating disorders, including anorexia nervosa and bulimia, that now affect 1 of every 250 women 13 to 22 years old.'"

Kelly, Joe. Dads and Daughters: How To Inspire, Understand, and Support Your Daughter When She's Growing Up So Fast. New York: Broadway Books, 2002. An essential aid for the fathers of adolescent girls.

Levy, Barrie. Dating Violence: Young Women In Danger. Seattle: Seal Press, 1991."Contributors in various fields including psychology, social work and criminology offer 20 articles on the social context of dating violence and on intervention and prevention strategies."

Mackoff, Barbara. Growing A Girl: Seven Strategies for Raising a Strong and Spirited Daughter. New York: Dell Publishing, 1996. Mackoff takes into consideration many theories on how to raise a daughter and offers her own recommendations.

Mann, Judy. The Difference: Growing Up Female In America. New York: Warner Books, 1994. "Discussing the experiences of her daughter and analyzing research charting the interaction of children and teachers, Mann argues that girls are taught to remain passive while boys dominate the classroom."

Marone, Nicky. How To Father A Successful Daughter. New York: McGraw-Hill, 1998. A step-by-step manual for fathers.

Marone, Nicky. How To Mother A Successful Daughter: A Practical Guide For Empowering Girls From Birth To Eighteen. Three Rivers Press, 1999. A unique mentoring approach for mothers.

Orenstein, Peggy. School Girls: Young Women, Self-Esteem, and the Confidence Gap. New York: Anchor Books, 1995. Following a 1990 poll which found that girls suffer plummeting self-esteem and reduced expectations as they enter adolescence, journalist Orenstein visited two California middle schools to take a more personal look at the statistics.

Pipher, Mary. Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls. New York: Random House, 1994. The catalyst for the creation of The Ophelia Project. An examination of our "girl poisoning" culture.

Rutter, Virginia Beane. Celebrating Girls: Nurturing and Empowering Our Daughters. Berkeley, CA: Conan Press, 1996. "Rutter offers specific ways to help raise self-esteem, make girls understand that they do matter, assure their physical self-confidence, empower their minds, and support their creativity."

Shaffer, Susan Morris and Linda Perlman Gordon. Why Girls Talk - And What They're Really Saying. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2004. A book aimed at helping parents (particularly mothers) stay connected with their teenage daughters.

Snyderman, Nancy and Peg Streep. Girl in the Mirror: Mothers and Daughters in the Years of Adolescence. New York: By the Bay Productions, Inc., 2002. An optimistic parenting guide about making adolescence a positive time for both mothers and daughters.

Wolf, Naomi. The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women. New York: William Morrow, 1991. "Naomi Wolf argues that women's insecurities are heightened by [commercial] images, then exploited by the diet, cosmetic, and plastic surgery industries."

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Resources About Boys

Beausay, Bill. Teenage Boys: Surviving and Enjoying These Extraordinary Years. Colorado Springs, CO: Waterbrook Press, 1998. Beausay offers six principles that can help parents to powerfully shape the man inside their teenage boy.

Biddulph, Steve. Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different - And How To Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1997. Written from the perspective of Australian family therapist, Biddulph, who is calling for a focused, supportive approach to parenting boys.

Caron, Ann F. Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Raising the Next Generation of Men. New York: HarperCollins, 1994. A practical, informative guide for mothers on raising secure, healthy sons.

Gurian, Michael. A Fine Young Man: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do To Shape Adolescent Boys Into Exceptional Men. New York: Penguin Putnam, 1998. A book which operates from Gurian's assertion that, "We do not understand adolescent-male development, and therefore are unable to give our adolescent males the kind of love they need to become fully responsible, loving, and wise men."

Gurian, Michael. The Good Son: Shaping the Moral Development of Our Boys and Young Men. New York: Penguin Putnam, 1999. A complete parenting plan focusing specifically on the moral development of adolescent boys.

Gurian, Michael. The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys Into Exceptional Men. New York: Tarcher/Putnam, 1997. An examination of modern boyhood.

Hartley-Brewer, Elizabeth. Raising Confident Boys: 100 Tips for Parents and Teachers. Cambridge, MA: Fisher Books, 2000. Tips for adults who want to help the boys in their lives accomplish important goals.

Kindlon, Dan and Michael Thompson. Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. New York: Ballantine Books, 2000. Insights on boys' emotional development from birth through the college years.

Pollock, William. Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. New York: Henry Holt, 1998. Pollack advises parents on how to help boys repair their fragile self-esteem, develop empathy and explore their sensitive sides.

Shaffer, Susan Morris and Linda Perlman Gordon. Why Boys Don't Talk - And Why It Matters. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2004. Emphasizes the importance of staying connected to boys as they grow into adolescence and how to decipher the meanings behind their silence.

Thompson, Michael. Speaking of Boys: Answers to the Most-Asked Questions. New York: Ballantine Books, 2000. Thompson seeks to answer parents' questions concerning the complexities of raising a boy in today's society.

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